Better Quality of Life
I am a reasonably healthy mid-60 year-old female. Thankfully doctor trips for me are rare, which is not the case for my husband who deals with numerous health issues due to Viet Nam injuries that are ongoing, even after all these years. I am grateful the VA remembers his, and other veteran’s sacrifices, given for this country.
Because of his health concerns, doctor visits are frequent and his list of medications long. The goal of, at least ‘maintaining his health status so it doesn’t worsen’, (at least rapidly) is a high priority, as it should be.
We try to eat healthy, but honestly that can be a struggle when there is so much, what I call ‘junk’ food to eat! Of course that includes processed foods, sugar foods, and most of the snacks. We aren’t different than anyone else, and always have at least ‘some’ —(although not an abundance) in the house!
We also garden, when we are in the area. When we aren’t I love when we can visit a Farmer’s Market, when everyone from the community comes together and offers their fresh, organic product to those who are interested. Sadly, most of us would rather reach for a can (or frozen) version of the fresh foods, instead of preparing it from scratch. What’s even sadder is knowing that many of us haven’t a clue how to even prepare food from scratch!
So while we try to keep our quality of life higher by eating healthy, and exercise (even if it’s minimally!), I’m amazed how often insurance will cover (for any issue I may have) a medical emergency, but will not cover a ‘maintaining’ appointment such as eye appointments or even dental, (and I suspect others, as well.) My mind asks the question, ‘Wouldn’t it be wiser to cover a yearly exam rather than a medical emergency?’ My logic, and it could be wrong, thinks the expense would be greater, given all that’s involved with an emergency. If ‘check ups’ were maintained, it seems that ‘emergencies’ would be less likely. Again, perhaps I’m wrong and that’s okay.
But there are others who could seriously use regular check ups. Their health problems and quality of life, would be much better maintained (like with my husband) if medical issues would be handled earlier rather than later.
This problem is compounded exponentially by the disability population as they battle these types of issues on a regular basis. Their medical situations often put them in a difficult position of maintaining a permanent job, attending college on a regular basis (although the internet is helping with that), general mobility of just getting around outside their homes, gardening, and so much more.
Because of financial difficulties, insurance is an added problem. So what are they to do? First, keep fighting! Additionally, finding an advocate to help the ‘fight’ is a good thing, as is, being deliberate about eating habits, exercise and even mental health.
We all, regardless of ‘ability’ or ‘lack of ability’, need to be intentional about our personal health, because this directly impacts our quality of life, which is very important to happiness for us and those around us.
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Keeping Boredom At Bay
I can tell when I get bored; I get sleepy! While I’d like to say I don’t get bored often, in the evening when my husband is watching a TV program I’m not interested in, I curl up on the sofa and take a nap. I’ve tried to get myself to do something constructive, but by that time in the late evening, I’m just too tired to pull out any thing to do.
I’ve also found when I don’t have a ‘plan’ for my day, I can get bored. It sounds silly, but when I don’t have something specific to do, at that moment, my brain draws a blank. Understand, my to-do list includes all sorts of ‘stuff’; my domestic duties; writing; and unusual stuff that I’m sure I’m going to forget if I don’t write it down. But if I honestly have my list complete, (or I’m totally ‘done’ and don’t feel like tackling what’s on my list!) I’m not sure what I want to do next!
I read an article months (maybe years) ago about creating a ‘brain dump’ of everything you’d like to get done. I scoffed at the idea and thought that just seems silly! But what I discovered recently is while not everything is written down, I do have a rather lengthy list of daily to-do’s that each only take about five or ten minutes.
My son, at my request, did a scan of my computer and discovered one area had LOTS of space taken. His first thought was documents, since I write. It wasn’t that. It was my pictures! Oh my goodness. I’d been saying for years, that I needed to go through them, but just couldn’t find the time. I’d work on it for a week or so, then get distracted and forget where I was when I finally got back to it. His suggestion: set the timer on my phone for five minutes. Go through photos every day for only five minutes.
That process worked! So I transferred that same thought process to other areas, where I just don’t seem to have the time to do it, and it allows me to work on it a little every day! That even includes the fun stuff, that I’d never schedule in. I study for five or so minutes, read a little, catch up on mundane things that don’t necessarily interest me, but still need doing, and even exercising!
The point of all this rambling is, we all run into the problem of keeping boredom at bay! It creeps up on us, when we don’t expect it; when we haven’t planned for it! It means staying active doing something that wakes us up and keeps us going!
Sometimes we need something bigger than five or ten minutes to keep us from getting bored or stuck in the same routine. Volunteering is a great way to give back to our community and do something worthwhile. Taking a day trip to a museum, city park, an animal shelter or other place will get the juices flowing again and perhaps even create a bit of energy we didn’t expect.
If homebound because of a disability, these strategies can be difficult. But there are still alternatives to giving in to the sedative of boring! When an actual ‘day trip’ isn’t possible, perhaps take one virtually with DisabledGo or by way of Earthcam (my favorite) which are great ways to experience places you could otherwise not visit!
The thing we need to remember is, being active is a vital part of living a full life, regardless of ability or dis-ability. Sometimes we need to get creative to keep our minds, emotions, bodies and spirits running at a productive speed. Get creative! Stay active!
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Opportunities And Expectations
We are getting ready to begin a brand new year. This is the perfect time to reflect and attempt to see opportunities all around us we may be missing.
When I graduated from high school I was already married, (we married in August between my Junior and Senior year) and discovered four months after we married that I was pregnant. I graduated in June (yes, I attended classes all year—and went to commencement) and had our firstborn in mid-July. Life continued, but plans changed. I’m not sure I ever thought I’d get to go to college, but not because I wasn’t interested. But our 2nd, 3rd, 4th and even 5th child was born and life just kept moving forward.
When our youngest started college, I was blessed with an unexpected opportunity to go to college. I was terrified! It had been 30 yeas since I’d been in a classroom; but I was determined to do my very best and take advantage of something I never thought would ever happen.
I grew! I learned so much. I’d been writing for years and never did take a ‘writing’ class (aside from the required English classes) but instead took the Elementary Education direction. I discovered things about myself, like being able to present in front of a full classroom—-and enjoying it! I learned how to create a Power Point and so much more that would ultimately help me in ways I couldn’t have known would happen at the time.
I had my challenges. Math (and Science) about upended me! But I pushed through with the help of my grown children! Even these classes in which I struggled prepared me for situations I would have to tackle later in my life!
Out of the ‘unexpected possibility, I was able to write the novel, “More Than A Mom,” a dream I didn’t even know I had! It was intimidating, but stimulating at the same time! I was able to culminate my innate gifts with what I learned from this unexpected opportunity to further my writing.
We ALL have dreams, even if not totally formulated. We also ALL have opportunities to do something about those dreams, even if the opportunities show up unexpectedly or in surprising ways we barely recognize at the time.
It doesn’t matter what your ability —- on lack of ability! I’m here to tell you dreams do come true; not always like we expect but sometimes better than we expect! Writing stories for children for disabilities has been an unexpected gift created out of an unexpected possibility!
Organizations are available to help those with or without disabilities to dream the big dreams! Get the therapy, education, possible financial aid and support from others to make your doors of opportunity open! Get involved with community, find people to help you realize your potential.
It’s a brand new year. It’s the time your look past the ‘nay-sayers’ in your life, who don’t share your dream and trample your ideas with negativity! Your dreams have the potential to be a ‘dream come true’ as you accept the opportunities that come your way and move your life in the direction you want to go!
Happy New Year!
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Resolutions - 2024
2023 is coming to a close and 2024 is right around the corner. Many of us take a few moments before the end of the year and come up with New Year’s resolutions that we would like to see accomplished in the upcoming year. These resolutions are in essence a promise to ourselves that we want to keep to make our lives better, whether it’s physical, emotional, spiritual or even relational or somewhere in between.
Resolutions can be for something as simple as getting up five minutes earlier or reading a book a month. Or as complicated as changing jobs and moving to another part of the country, or having a plan to make $20,000 more a year in income.
Many people put exercise and diet on their resolution list. Part of mine is educational— to strengthen my math skills and have significant spiritual growth. Perhaps your goals fall somewhere in between.
Regardless of our goals, the hardest part seems to be staying with a goal that we’ve made for the entire year. Life seems to get in the way, routine is changed and all of a sudden it’s been a week or even months since we worked on our goal. Getting back on track seems all but impossible.
Staying ‘with it’ isn’t the only problem that faces a disabled person who makes resolutions Their life is often considerably more difficult and complicated. When considering resolutions, options must be considered that will be most effective to make their quality of life better, given any current difficulty. This idea is relative to anyone who makes a resolution.
A disabled person, however, must look at their life through a different lens. We all have hindrances that affect what we can and cannot do. Any obstacles must be considered which will limit our ability to be successful. It may be finances which inhibit our ability to complete a goal, or even an education factor. It might be geography, or experience or some other element that is relative to our unique situation.
When making a resolution it helps to remember to include people who could also use support and encouragement, perhaps in the same physical, emotional or spiritual situation. Finding like minded people will aid in working toward like minded goals. Additionally, these kinds of goals will enable you to make a difference in your community and often offer incentive to keep us going!
I am guilty of creating too many resolutions. My intent is to be productive and better myself. But in the process I overwhelm myself and therefore give up before I really get a solid start. So this year I am only going to create four resolutions.
1. — physical (and it’s going to be to eat healthier —which will include making a menu that will enable me to do this) And hopefully find some exercise time!
2. — educational which means I will need to choose a subject of study to focus on for a specific time period before I move to another—-I think it’s going to be Math.
3. —spiritual which includes re-reading Pilgrim’s Progress and writing about each day’s reading!
4. —Another needs be in the ‘writing’ world, which will include setting time frames to finish and publish more books in the next year.
As I consider all of these elements, several absolutely cross over into the ‘community’ realm. Even the blogs I write are part of ministry/volunteer components since I do not get paid for these, but I do these because I believe I’m called to them.
Each will need specific markers to move forward, but I have a place to start. Every person can decide to make a difference, regardless of abilities or lack of some. It takes determination, strong desire and focus.
Will you decide to make changes in your life during 2024 which will also impact those around you? Share your goals! It helps ignite the energy!
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Christmas - Remembering What’s Important
One of my favorite things to do during the Christmas season (or any season, if I’m honest) is to watch the Christmas Hallmark movies, even though I know they are totally made for TV and not like real life at all!
While I’m not alone in recognizing the lack of realism in the movies, there are those who believe life should be just like these movies that often render false hope.
For a disabled person the ‘Hallmark’ perspective is even more skewed. For them, Christmas isn’t ‘warm and fuzzy’ nor has a happy ending. It’s stressful and causes much distress! These feelings often are displayed in ways which confuse both the person with the stress and the caregiver or most often the parents!
Behavior changes because of distress are the most likely form of dissension where the message being amplified is “What’s happened to my schedule?” Who put a tree in the living room and WHY?” Or even “Where did all these people come from and why are they here?”
Depending on the disability it’s important to plan ahead. One place to start is when sending out Christmas cards adding a small note to inform those ‘who need to know’ about changes in the disabled child, or even adult. This can mean informing them of topics which may (or may not) be good to discuss, gifts that are appropriate, events which may be challenging and work as a trigger that could escalate an unwelcome event, or any other relevant message which would be helpful when visitors arrive.
Other ways to sustain a comfortable environment may include prioritizing family traditions. Recall what makes the disabled person most comfortable and happy. It may include singing Christmas Carols while trimming the tree, or making cookies or even wrapping the presents, even if they just pull and tear the tape. It’s allowing them to participate in this wondrous season at their level of understanding and toleration.
Because transitions can be difficult, remember to make changes slowly. Decorations should be gradual so as to not overload the senses to the point of anxiety. When guests arrive, try to keep things as calm as possible, but invite the child to hand out cards, or even cookies so they have a specific job to do and therefore take the focus off what they can’t do, to what they can.
Christmas is an incredible time of year. Even for a person without a disability, it can be overwhelming and stressful, especially when work outside the home is necessary, there is shopping to do, decorating, wrapping gifts, baking, cards to mail, hosting to tend to, and the list goes on!
It’s important to stand back, put everything on hold, even if for just a few moments and say, ‘STOP’! I’m going to allow myself a moment to regroup. Take some quiet time. Get yourself your favorite warm (hot) drink, sit down and just breathe. And while this is important for everyone, it’s vital for the caregiver of a disabled child.
Christmas is a time of hope love and peace, which we sometimes lose when we get buried in all the ‘commercialism and materialism’—and stressful time Christmas has become. We all need to remember the real reason for the season. —-It’s a time to remember the Christ Child.
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Hobbies For Stress-And Christmas
One of my favorite things to do is quilt. I’ve made many; one for each of my grandchildren as newborns, and another larger one when they turned three; and before that it was graduation quilts for each of my five children, and more as gifts! It’s a hobby. I do it for the pure joy of the process and to see the completed project. I find when I am stressed, quilting can calm my nerves and put my entire being at ease. I can ‘breathe’ again!
Hobbies are like that and quilting is just the tip of the iceberg for ideas. While many men (and women!) like to fish, my husband likes to create stunning fishing poles decorated with beads and quilting thread. He can create insignias, or personal, distinct patterns however he desires.
One of my sons is all about creating three dimensional people, animals and other objects, and then painting them. He’s created entire cities or palace kingdoms from long past and they are exquisite! One of my daughters enjoys cross stitch and she too creates amazing town houses for Christmas so it becomes an entire village.
Another of my sons is all about gardening. He loves it and has become a ‘master- gardener’! He can grow almost anything and can answer questions for friends and family about almost any variety of vegetable.
Those ‘in the know’ will tell you hobbies are not only good for stress relief, but also build vital skills for those with disabilities in every area; socially, emotionally and in some cases even physically. Hobbies can improve life skills and encourage independence, not only for the disabled but across the board.
Biking is a hobby which builds balance and offers a sense of freedom since it can be be a mode of transportation. Reading and being part of a book club is a way to exercise the brain, and can help with working through emotions they may or may not have experienced before, while relieving stress, since it can transport us to another place.
Art is another hobby which is great for anyone because it’s a wonderful way to express feelings and helps strengthen focus. Even sports are again great stress relievers, teaching teamwork and community, sportsmanship, enhances physical fitness and even has an element of commitment.
Other hobbies could be photography, music, birdwatching, archery, putting puzzles together, scrapbooking, or even having a collection of a particular item. Someone might enjoy painting by number or creating craft work or whittling. The list is endless. It is totally dependent on what a person is interested in. And the fun thing is, what can start out as a hobby in one area has the potential to lead you into another.
Christmas is right around the corner. Creating gifts all year through is a wonderful way of having a hobby that gives all year! Card making is an option that often amazes people. Each card is a work of art designed almost as a gift!
Another great ‘Christmas hobby’ might be singing! Christmas songs are unique and have a special appeal. Again what an exceptional way to use your hobby—of using your special, unique voice—as a gift at Christmas!
Cooking or baking are still other hobbies which teach life skills, relieves stress and offers the rewards of the finished edible ‘creation’. These hobbies too, have amazing Christmas appeal while giving you the opportunity to learn and grow while being ‘in your happy place’!
Whatever a person discovers he enjoys doing, can in some cases become a hobby if he chooses to follow through with it. The choice is entirely his and can create a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction that can only be filled when a project has been completed.
It’s a great way to learn about yourself, other people and even other places, times, civilizations, and different ways to do things. The action and fulfillment of having hobbies can be carried over as ‘gifts’ to others. Additionally the relief from the day to day grind, emotionally can be thwarted, at least for a time, when being involved in a hobby a person loves.
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A Place For Everything
When my grand daughter comes to visit, she often remarks on my ‘everything has a place’ rule. My house is far from immaculate. It’s very lived in, but clutter drives me to distraction! In general terms, then, I try to have things picked up and ‘put in their place.’
That said, it’s just my husband and I. We both have hobbies and things we work on all the time that seems to always ‘be out’ and in the way when someone comes in the house. Still there is much less disorganization in general around the house since our five children grew up and have homes of their own. My grand daughter, at age 16 has three younger siblings. Their house is a mite small for all of them, so there is a bit of overlap when each of them have ‘stuff’ out to work on; and they are homeschooled, which adds another element of ‘stuff’ not always put away!
There are some families who have extra rooms where ‘stuff’ can be out and no one ever sees! It’s often called a family room, or perhaps a den—and for the kids, there’s a play room. This can give the illusion of a very organized home.
As an independent disabled person, making sure the house remains in some semblance of order, takes a bit more effort than perhaps I put in my house. My biggest challenge is height. I’m five foot when standing straight. My biggest hurdle is toting a stool to step on to reach anything in a high place. (Unless any of my children or husband is around who are all tall!)
The value and benefit from having an organized home resounds even more loudly in the disability arena. It’s more than a convenience; it’s necessary. Wheelchairs must have clear pathways, as do walkers or other apparatus used to navigate the landscape within the home—and ease of opening drawers and doors without things falling out.
Everyone has their own strategy, method or plan that works for them when it revolves around their home. I’ve been reading a lot about minimizing, and find our material items we no longer need, use or like, should be eliminated. This helps us focus on what is important instead of ‘where am I going to put this?’
I’ve found I gravitate to the same clothes over and over again, even if mixing and matching them; while others stay on the rack (or in the drawer) and rarely, if ever, get pulled out to wear. The idea is if I don’t love it—for the color, the fit and how it looks on me, it needs to go! This provides the room I need for those items I do like without having them stuffed in the closet or the drawer.
I find this same practice necessary in my kitchen. Somehow I seem to ‘collect’ cups, without any effort of my own. Every now and again, I find it helpful to sift through my ‘collection’ and keep only the ones that really matter or that I prefer using. This mentality works with all kitchen appliances and gadgets (and I seem to collect them too!), and other items that get tossed into a drawer until I make the decision to go through it!
These ideas along with ‘items having a specific place’, allows for some amount of organization. I loathe opening a door and having ‘stuff’ fall out, or even opening a drawer and having to ‘dig’ inside to see what’s there —-or find what I want or need.
Christmas is almost here and we all receive gifts we either love, or wonder how we will use or asks does ‘it’ work for me? As you open your gifts this year, remember that you’ll receive items you’ll have to put away. How do you decide where you’ll place the newest ‘gadget, picture, unusual ‘keeper’, kitchen tool, and more?’ Having a ‘place for everything’ will help you reduce the look of clutter!.
Having additional options to choose from can be helpful on all fronts! What secrets do you have for keeping your ‘space’ organized and accessible?
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Christmas-A Warm And Wonderful Season
Christmas is an amazing time of year. The Carols, lights, decorations and festivities fill most of our hearts with an energy that can be obsessive if we let it! There’s a joy, kindness and peace that seems to exude from each of us as we pass friends and neighbors on the street and sometimes even carries over to strangers.
The busy-ness of the season sends us in what seems to be sixty-three different directions and sometimes it’s difficult to keep up. There are Christmas cards to get ready, gifts to buy, decorations to put up, foods to prep, Christmas plays and concerts to attend, friends and family to entertain as they visit from out of state, and this is just the tip of the iceberg! All this activity can seem more like chaos and has the ability to set us in a tailspin.
The disability ‘people group’ have their own perception of Christmas and sometimes it’s totally different than those of their non-disabled peers. Certainly they enjoy gift giving, but shopping can be a struggle if mobility is hampered. Still, when visitors come, whether in the form of family or friends, it’s a welcome change from the routine of healthcare appointments, therapy sessions and other inhibitors they deal with on a day to day basis.
Travel can be difficult unless a trusted friend or relative is willing to accommodate, which isn’t always an option. There are a variety of practical elements which must be considered such as dietary restrictions, bedtime routines, and even transportation requirements once they’ve arrived at their destination.
Even interaction with friends and family can dampen a normally festive occasion due to acceptance and perceptions regarding a particular situation. Mixed responses can be emotionally upending.
While wanting to be included in this warm and wonderful season, it can present undeniable frustration and uncertainty on both sides of the equation. Both sides feel the weight of the other, but finding a balance to be both accommodating and understanding can be precarious causing uneasiness for everyone involved.
Those who live the ‘disabilities’ are intensely aware of who they are and should never have to apologize for any inconvenience they seem to present, or for who they are. They are beautiful individuals with a desire to love the Christmas season just as everyone else. Sometimes that happens; and sometimes it gets lost and buried beneath the inadequacies they are often cruelly reminded they seemingly have, which should never define them.
Instead, differences should be countered with a genuine acceptance of their unique qualities they can openly demonstrate, when allowed; and encouraged by people who love them just because they are!
This is the season for joy, peace, love, faith, happiness and hope. Every person world wide has the right to claim these virtues regardless of the season. As we celebrate, we need to remember that our disabled population may struggle to feel celebratory, unless we invite them into our hearts and home with genuine love and respect.
Joy, peace, love, faith, happiness, kindness, acceptance, and hope; let’s extend these foundational Christmas principals (and more) to each and every one we know and meet, regardless of any ability, or dis-ability!
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Reasons To Be Thankful
Thanksgiving will be here in just a couple days. It’s a time families gather around the table and celebrate with a huge meal, some fellowship, reminiscing, love and laughter—unless of course, your family has broken relationships due to disagreements and different opinions.
It isn’t uncommon for these kinds of scenarios; and in fact it’s probably unusual if it doesn’t happen! When these kinds of circumstances upend a family gathering, it’s difficult sometimes to keep the celebration cordial, much less filled with thankfulness. But we do need to try; even if it’s hard.
Communication is important and no family is perfect. There always seems to something we need to ‘work around’. Human nature demands it. We want to share our hearts and time with our families and friends, -especially this time of year, and sometimes we have to approach it in a non-traditional way!
But there is another circumstance which can create its own difficulties, which is often overlooked by those who aren’t intimately involved. Not only can ‘this’ circumstance bring difficulties, but a feeling of loneliness and rejection from the community at large; it’s having a disability.
Thankful For Communication
A disability on the other hand, can seem like an unlikely reason to be thankful, but there are those who don’t look at their disability as something to be ignored, considered dreadful, or even something to consider anything less than a blessing.
There are those who are just grateful for the ability to communicate. A blind person obviously can’t rely on his sight to be able to read body language or even make eye contact. But using their other senses allows them to the opportunity to communicate in more creative ways.
A non-verbal person may communicate through use of an iPad or computer. By typing what he/she wants to say, they can express more clearly what they are thinking. This is especially important if trying to communicate with someone who doesn’t know sign language.
These ideas indicate there are other ways to communicate, even if abilities are demonstrated in a non-traditional way. In many different kinds of settings, it’s vital to a sense of inclusion and deepening a feeling of ‘belonging’ when a person knows they can be understood, and on the other side of this—- gain understanding! This is indeed, reason to be thankful!
What Are You Thankful For?
I wonder, what are you thankful for on this Thanksgiving holiday? I have a long list, but I will name a few. I’m most thankful for my faith which sustains me daily; my family—husband, children, grandchildren, and extended family through aunts, uncles, and cousins. I’m also thankful for my church family, for the ability to write and share my thoughts, our home, pets, the ability to travel on occasion, food and clothes, friends, neighbors, first responders, technology that allows me to communicate with a large audience, an education and the list could go on for a long time! I’m sure you get the picture!
I hope you’ll share your thoughts of thankfulness! It’s always a joyous time when we can verbalize (or in some other way) express our heartfelt thanks for our blessings!
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone! Be Blessed!
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Sharing Life Over Coffee
While I don’t do it often, there is something special about getting a sweet, hot cup of caramel macchiato with whipped cream and sprinkles on top from a coffee shop. It’s such a treat, but ultimately pricey!
A friend asked me the other day if I wanted to go out for coffee and then amended her question with, “We could just go to my house and have coffee! I have a Keurig coffee maker and lots of different kinds of coffee. And,” she added, “I even have some whipped cream we can spray on top!”
I laughed. “You know what? Let’s go to your house. That makes a lot more sense!” So off we go and spend the next couple hours drinking an un-determined amount of coffee while catching up on life and chatting about anything that comes to mind, without having to spend several dollars for a single coffee.
A Disability Can Change Things
While this may sound like a trivial matter, what about the person who has a disability? Randomly going ‘out’ for coffee can be a stressful matter! We are about to enter the biggest holiday seasons of the year; Thanksgiving and Christmas. It seems everyone is out and about, but what if they’re not? What if getting ‘out’ is difficult because of funds, or the lack of mobility to get to the coffee shop to have a cup of hot delicacy?
What’s surprising to me is the statistically high rise in loneliness during the holidays. I am so happy during this season, that my brain has a difficult time wrapping itself around this idea. Yet I know it’s truth. As winter sets in and everyone is running in different directions, we as peers, tend to forget those who aren’t as mobile.
We focus on our particular gatherings, parties, shopping and other obligations and neglect (perhaps even unintentionally reject) that everyone isn’t doing the same. When going to a Christmas tree lighting in the center of town, how often do you see someone in a wheelchair? In a cold climate, navigating snowy sidewalks or even just throngs of busy people, any disability equipment can seem cumbersome.
This is the time of year for joy, love, happiness and general feelings of good will, yet not everyone experiences these amazing emotions during this ‘busy’ time. Sitting with a friend after shopping and sharing a warm drink isn’t as simple as it sounds.
A Holiday of Inclusion
Rather than including a disabled friend at the last minute, perhaps this will be the year we can make the effort for inclusion from the very beginning. When you are planning an event be certain you not only invite them, but invite them early so they can make preparations. In addition make the proper preparations for accommodating their specific need. It may mean altering a location, or in some other way being sure any necessary equipment can be utilized.
Even if you are not having an ‘event’ we should all do our best to remember to include our disabled friends and neighbors during this season of ‘thankfulness’ and celebration of Christmas. Share a meal, dessert, or coffee. But mostly share generously of time. In the busy-ness in which we find ourselves, this one element, —which is ours to freely give— offer to someone whose disability limits them the ability to gather and fellowship with others.
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Honoring Our Veterans
Veteran’s Day is fast approaching. You may witness parades, an abundance of United States flags flying, gatherings of service men and women and their families for a meal or other celebrations, or even hear speeches by politicians who stop to give honor and gratitude to those who dealt with the cruelty of war through front line combat, service on ships, in the air, or in other ways.
We have much to be thankful for regarding these amazing men and women who answered the ‘call to action’ and have given a part —or all—of their lives to protect the freedoms, we in this country often take for granted. These patriots, over the years, have displayed strength, dedication, and sacrifice to God and country, in ways those who didn’t serve can only remotely relate to.
Freedom Is Not Free
While not a veteran myself, my husband is a retired Marine and served in the Viet Nam War. He and others were exposed to Agent Orange and other contaminates which have affected physical and emotional health. During that era, service men and women were often held in contempt for their participation in a war many people did not understand. Upon return to the States they were treated with cruelty and hostility.
Since the Viet Nam era, those returning home have been treated much more kindly, with acceptance in their participation in conflicts and engagements which happened on foreign soil.
But our freedoms aren’t free. They are costly! Many of the returning soldiers, from the Viet Nam era and those wars since then, have had to deal with terrible suffering, both emotionally and physically. War is not pretty. It’s cruel. It costs the lives of some, and in others has created disabilities which must be dealt with for the rest of the person’s life. We owe so much to those men and women who chose to sacrifice their lives for something bigger than themselves.
Celebrating Our Veterans
Veteran’s Day is a celebration of our brave military! It’s a time to be thankful for the heart and belief in our country to each person who has, or is currently serving. Their stories should not be lost to the ages, but shared with loved ones, and others who need to understand how great a commitment these men and women made and have given each of us, even if indirectly.
It’s a time to recognize those who fought and gave their lives. It’s a time to thank those who fought and came back and rejoined their families, even though it requires working through the memories and hardships of the conflict they lived through. It’s a time to thank those whose wartime experience left them with a disability for the rest of their lives.
Reach out to a Veteran this week. Let them know you appreciate their efforts of protecting you and your family without counting the cost. Thank them for their service. Pay tribute to all the branches of the military and the hardships they’ve had to endure. This seems to me, to be the very least we can do. I hope you agree.
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Caregiver Inspiration
There’s a lot of people who will tell you ‘if you work in a field you love, you never work a day in your life!’ I tend to agree, since when you can do this, you are doing something that makes you happy. However, many people have a ‘job’ because they need the paycheck to make it from week to week.
When I look at a person who is caregiver of the disabled, I am both awed and inspired! Their dedication is incredible, whether its a parent, other relative, friend, or hired person. On days when everything seems to go wrong, a person may wonder how they keep from being overwhelmed, stay motivated and how they manage the stress.
A caregiver who chooses this profession, is one who wants to make a difference in the lives of others. While we all have a ‘job’ to do, sometimes we wonder how our ‘work’ improves or even affects, the lives of other individuals.
As caregiver, a person directly impacts the quality of life for those who are under their care. especially when they are able to give assistance to their ‘charge’ in the familiar surroundings of their client’s home. Their aid and support is vital to every day functionality, health, and happiness.
Being passionate and patient are some of the qualities required to care for the disabled or even a senior. But it’s important to remember, that we all require self-care. This is especially vital in this profession, yet sometimes extremely difficult.
It’s In The Love
I had conversation recently with a parent who had a highly autistic, non-verbal son. On those days when the son turned violent during adolescence, remaining calm, assured, or patient was difficult. This circumstance could strain even the most passionate person. Love is the obvious answer. This parent loved his son so much, he would have done almost anything to make his son’s life more tolerable, and often did.
This kind of love is somewhat different for a non-parent, but still often the driving force behind their care. Sometimes a person must just step back and remember to ‘breathe’! Taking a walk outside to recompose after a particularly stressful day is a key component of self-care. Perspective can be re-acclimated through time alone and the natural beauty our mind can focus on.
Self-Care
Other methods of self-care is to try a new hobby which can take your mind off the current situation; heading to the gym for exercise; allowing yourself time to soak in the tub; calling a friend to vent or even asking for help. We aren’t supposed to tackle everything alone. Asking for help does not suggest we are weak, but rather strong enough to recognize we need another perspective.
Even when we love what we do, our emotions and perspectives can become skewed due to physical fatigue and circumstances over which we have no control. When we ignore the signals our bodies give us, we risk faltering. We are human and deserve to help ourselves in ways that help us be at our best. Give yourself the gift of self-care, which is not only good for you, but your family, friends and for those you are working with, to increase their optimal quality of life. Choose to be your best and practice, whenever possible, daily self-care.
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Halloween Fun or Not?
Halloween is being celebrated across the world. It’s a pagan holiday, often to be believed to be one of the oldest holidays of the world. Many people either love it or hate it. Sometimes it can be tied to one’s religious beliefs or it can be from a frightening experience or conversely an exhilarating one; or even from a very painful circumstance.
I’ve never been fond of the holiday and only really remember ‘trick or treating’ once when I was in early elementary school. My sister and I, without any particular costume, wore simply a paper bag over our heads. As an adult, my negative feelings for the holiday has been complicated with the horror elements which have been added in our culture through ghoulish and dark witch and warlock costumes, music, movies and even behaviors which have been deadly.
All that said, my children have enjoyed the holiday celebrated in public schools in their elementary years. Parents were invited, as all the children and teachers paraded in their costumes. Following the parade were lots of treats in the individual classrooms, which were decorated in the festive orange and black, cobweb, and spidery ornamentations.
A Disability Element
I admit, the complications a disabled child might have, relative to the holiday, didn’t really occur to me and possibly to many others who have not been intimately associated with the disability population.
One person shared the story of how she, her sister and several friends were ‘trick or treating’ when she was a pre-teen. Things were going well as they walked together, knocked on doors and were given treats. Upon greeting one lady, when she opened the door, the lady greeted each of her visitors by guessing what each participate was, via their costume.
The woman was delighted with the Pretty Princess, the Little Red Riding Hood, Raggedy Ann, the classic clown and then looked at the final little girl and said, ‘Oh my. We have a Quasimodo. How original!’ A hush fell over the children, as they tried to process what that meant. Whatever it meant, it clearly wasn’t a compliment. I admit, I had to look it up. It referred to a grotesque hunch-backed character in Victor Hugo’s Notre-Dame de Paris novel.
This child was forever scarred by this verbal attack, not because of the costume she wore, but because she was disabled and the greeter at the door was horribly unkind. She looked different not only at Halloween, but every other day of the year. This was not by choice but was her reality. The woman’s words were cruel and drove the idea of her ‘differences’ stabbing in her heart.
It’s About The Costume
Costumes are central to the Halloween celebrations. Usually they are cute, silly, scary, idolizing, or funny. Sometimes costumes require props to make them complete like a cane or other aparatus. But when someone ignores the ‘costume’ and makes unkind remarks, it’s not funny, or cute. It’s not silly, or part of recognizing any kind of celebrity or icon idol. It’s cruel and impactful on children and adults who have disabilities.
They want nothing more than to be accepted by their peers and not be identified by whatever disability they happen to have. Perhaps this will be the year you will have the opportunity to recognize what’s ‘behind the costume’ and see the ‘abilities’ rather than any ‘dis-ability.’
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Communicating Successfully
“Read to me,” my granddaughter says handing me a book. Curling up in my lap, the three-year-old prepares to journey through a story. She delights in pointing out things she recognizes and listens intently. If she knows the story well enough, she’s quick to point out any mistakes or variations of the story I try to make.
Literacy is such a vital part of daily life. It’s more than just being able to read. It’s about listening, speaking and communicating successfully! These skills are important to teach our young ones early, since they are carried with them, the rest of their lives.
As parents (or grand parents) when we read a story to our child we are setting foundational importance on these skills. Stories aren’t, however, the only way a child can learn. Singing songs, reciting rhymes, and playing with them, aids in their ability to grasp these elements and use them correctly.
I remember when one of my daughters was in first or second grade. We were traveling and I was pointing out signs for her to read. There was one, (I’m not certain now what it was) but asked her to try to read it. Looking at it intently, she said, “My eyes don’t see in cursive!” I hadn’t noticed the sign was indeed in cursive, so not being able to read it, made perfect sense.
That concept carries over into a child’s ability or lack of ability when not exposed to the different ways words are written, sound, or even mean. This is true even for a toddler, who doesn’t seem ready for such interaction, but can pick up more than we expect.
If a child is spoken to with ‘baby talk’—using only words with a single syllable or in a manner a toddler may speak, that is what they learn. They mimic other learning from what they see, why not speaking, as well? If a child is spoken to in complete sentences, and even asked to ‘rephrase’ when not answering correctly, they will rapidly learn the correct way to enunciate and articulate their own sentences.
Reading Is Key To Learning To Communicate
Learning to speak well, is carried over into reading. They can hear a story, and pick up on the tone, the sentence structure and even pronunciation of words they may not even know. Discuss the story when finished. Ask questions relevant to the story and listen for their response. You may need to alter your question, but when they can answer correctly, you can see them thinking! The challenge enhances growth.
A child with dyslexia or other developmental delay may still struggle with this, but by working on the ‘correct’ way in daily conversation, you are choosing the correct path for your child. When talking with infants and toddlers, the ground work is in place to increase vocabulary, recognize and pronounce correctly animal names, colors, objects, food, understand directions and more.
By teaching a child to use manners, (by using please and thank you) and vocalizing greetings, sing songs, and saying rhymes, they are being conditioned to strive for the best in communication.
Promote Learning Through Encouragement
Introduce your child to coloring and writing (under careful supervision, of course.) This idea stimulates the child’s interest in further communication. All these skills promotes literacy, even if the child struggles due to a disability. Display their masterpieces, either on the refrigerator or other designated area where it can be seen. Note their improvements. This promotes further development.
Everyone wants to be able to communicate. There are some who are exceptional, others are average. Those with a disability must work harder. But we can all learn and despite the struggle, it’s well worth the effort!
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Words Matter
When my husband and I traveled across country, people could often tell where we were from because of our accent and the words or expressions we used. Once while camping and using the shower facilities in a campground with my young daughters, someone called out to me and said, “You have to be from the Eastern Shore!”
“We are,” I responded. “But how did you know that?”
“By the way you talk,” she said.
Needless to say, I was totally shocked. I had no idea I had even the remotest accent or used any particular dialect relative to the place we lived. But given I never saw or met the woman who spoke to me, I apparently did!
UNIQUE TO GEOPGRAPHY
In the northern states people put items in a sack, while on the east coast items are put in a bag. We have sodas, other people have pop. Many grandparents are mom mom and pop pop, while in other areas they are Grandma and Grandpa or Nana and Poppa. It has to do with geography. None is wrong, just different.
In the Appalachian Mountains there is a distinct dialect which sets it apart and has been suggested as being inferior, due to seclusion from other areas, apathy, and absence of education. The culture has been subjected to accusations of unsophistication. This is far from the truth. People are just different, and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, the dialect and accent is an appealing element of that area. There have been times when I’ve looked at a total stranger with whom I’m having a conversation and say, “I could listen to you talk all day long!”
When we share our faith or political views we are sometimes accused of a variety of things. It might be stupidity, lunacy, ignorance or even fanaticism. When attacked in such a way, we might choose to cower and stop sharing, even when we would rather not. We aren’t trying to be fearful, we just want the mocking and insults to stop.
Recently a young woman I don’t know “followed” me on Twitter. I responded with a thank you and hoped she’d find my posts a blessing. I was taken aback when her response was negative and downright insulting, especially when she “followed” me, not the other way around. I wanted to respond, and ask why she followed me, but the internet (or my computer) –or a Higher Power intervened and I could not make connection.
It’s difficult to react positively when unkind things are being said. Often our instinct is to respond with equally negative reactions. When we do this we are allowing the negativity control us and rule our thoughts and behaviors.
DISABILITIES AND WORDS
This pattern of behavior seems especially evident regarding those who have disabilities. Sometimes a disability is invisible to the general population, yet this person could be experiencing incredible physical pain. I’ve heard the comment before when a person gets out of a vehicle parked in ‘Handicapped Parking” —with a permit displayed, that she/he is abusing someone else’s placard because they didn’t ‘look’ disabled. Other times people will make an unkind remark when having to go around a wheelchair, or wait because a person is deaf and/or mute and is trying to make themselves understood. These are only a few examples, but the incidents are real and can be demoralizing!
So I challenge you to offer understanding when people are different from what seems “normal” in your world. Different isn’t necessarily wrong. On the other side of the isle, consider the person throwing vile and offensive comments as an opportunity to demonstrate the goodness, hope and happiness in your life. You might be the only glimpse of joy they’ve seen all day long!
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The Arts Are For Everyone
The Arts Are For Everyone
Art of all types can be a powerful way for children with disabilities to express themselves, build confidence, and cultivate creativity. Unfortunately, many children with physical and cognitive disabilities are not given opportunities to explore all of the possibilities that the arts have to offer.
Today, guest author, Clair Wentz, shares a few tips on how you can help your kids get involved in the arts.
Make art accessible
Art activities should be accessible to all children. This means that you’ll need to provide accommodations for your children. This could be assistive technologies, modified materials, or a quiet room where they can work on their masterpiece without distraction.
Celebrate creativity
All artwork is subjective – the Eden Gallery explains that art may be meant to express feelings. And that means that every brushstroke, every note song, or every dance move mastered is something to celebrate. Be your children’s biggest advocate and their loudest cheerleader by celebrating each artistic task complete. A quick note here: be respectful of your kids. If they ask you not to yell praise from your seat, don’t embarrass them!
Save the art they do
All kids will, at some point, draw, paint, or create clay works of art. Save them if you can, and create a digital version of them if you can’t. Even something as silly as a face painted on bread with jelly is worth celebrating and saving… But going digital can cut down on the mess and the ants! You can scan images and take photos and use an online PDF tool that lets you drag-and-drop your pictures so that you can save them digitally to look on later or share with friends and family. Looking for a PDF conversion tool? This may help.
Read them stories
Children love to hear stories that involve people with issues such as theirs. And since disabilities come in many different forms, make sure that you expose them to literature, movies, and other stories about people dealing with the same things they are. If your child has cancer, for example, Bristol’s Special Day may be a great book to read.
Encourage independence
Although children with disabilities might need help and they may need more time to complete artistic activities, encourage independence where you can. And remember to be patient and understanding if your little ones struggle with making messes or staying on task. The PediaPlex blog explains that you can also give your children challenges and set goals to encourage them to do more on their own.
Seek out others
It’s human nature to seek out people who are like us. Children with disabilities are no different. They might feel more comfortable doing artistic activities with people who face the same challenges as they do. If they have Down syndrome, for example, you might find an adaptive dance program. The Harvard Gazette offers more information on adaptive dance and explains that it helps children with disabilities learn how to follow directions, better understand music, and work well with others.
Whether you are engaging in sensory play with food coloring and cornstarch or letting your children dance their hearts away, art is for everyone. All children can be encouraged to engage in their favorite activities, and there is no right or wrong way to go about it. Get your children excited by creating digital keepsakes of their art projects, celebrating their creativity, seeking out and reading about others with the same challenges, and encouraging independence. These seemingly small actions on your behalf may have a huge influence on your children and can help them unleash the inner creativity that you’ve always known they had.
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A Deliberate Fall Rest
Fall is such a wonderful time of year. The air turns crisp and clean, the leaves on the trees turn pumpkin orange, lemon yellow, vibrant red and a shimmering golden. The smells of chimney smoke filters through the air, mixing with whiffs of baking bread in the oven, or a batch of cider is cooking on the stove.
There’s always things on the to-do list that need to be attended. The garden needs putting to rest, the last of the grass needs to be trimmed, closets need refreshing by implementing the fall wardrobe over the summer, Fall cleaning with all the windows open to ventilate, is crying out to be done and the list could go on forever, if a person allowed it.
What happens to a time to rest during the flurry of trying to get everything done before winter arrives? Isn’t it interesting that we talk about putting the garden to ‘rest’ when we don’t seem to have time to give ourselves the rest we need?
I’m guilty of having a difficult time allowing myself to rest. The list of to-do’s often steal my ability to settle in and relax. I’ve been described as a person who doesn’t sit still. That’s close to accurate. Even writing comes in fits and spurts, because I’ll write a bit and then get up and do something else and come back to whatever writing project I’m working on. Rest comes hard for me and that’s true even when I put it on my to-do list!
Organize, Organize, Organize!
Organized people will tell you ‘prioritize’. I try, but I’m not good about prioritizing productively. My goals and targets are adjusted to the best of my ability so that I’m still moving forward, even if it’s a jagged line. So I do the best I can and ‘try’ to not worry about what I haven’t gotten done!
A person with a disability has the added pressure of desiring the life of success as their non-disabled peers. Their goals are before them, like everyone else, but the bar is sometimes set at a higher mark in an attempt to match what culture has found responsible and proper.
We are taught from a very early age we are only ‘responsible’, if we pursue our dreams with the utmost desire. Our world has this mindset we should all be equal in achievements and capabilities. They neglect to recognize, I think, that we are each individuals, with different goals and abilities. Sometimes that’s by choice, other times, it isn’t.
Just like the garden needs rest, our bodies (and minds) need rest, and guilt should not be in the equation, yet it often is. When trying with all the effort we can muster just to keep up, it often ‘turns’ on us and makes each day more stressful, and even more so, if a disability is part of our identifying make up.
Slow Down And Enjoy This Season
How then, can we slow down and enjoy this amazing season of Fall? There are lists on line if you choose to find one. (I’ve added an awesome link at the end of the post if you’d like to check it out!) Here are a few I’m particularly excited about trying!
A Nature walk. This is an activity most everyone can do. Get outside and breathe the clean, brisk Fall air. Your lungs with thank you! Check out the critters around you. Watch the squirrel gather nuts and jump from tree to tree, or the cat (or dog) chasing leaves as they float to the ground. Collect acorns and dried flowers. Drink in the colors on the trees, as your mind wanders back to when you were a child and just ‘be’!
Carve a pumpkin. Carving pumpkins can be challenging, but imagine the delight when you have the seeds roasting in the oven for a snack later, the pumpkin puree saved either in the freezer or canned for a yummy pumpkin pie or pumpkin muffin at another time; and then the beautiful carved decoration for Halloween placed on your porch for others to see! This is Fall!
Go on a hayride. This one might take a bit of research, but it isn’t uncommon for farms to offer this activity at a Fall Festival. There is something immensely satisfying about being on a farm and relaxing as your breathe in the scent of fresh hay, as you ride slowly over the grounds, drinking a warm cup of apple cider.
And if all these fail, grab yourself your favorite warm/hot drink, pick up your favorite book and sit out in the warm sunshine and read awhile!
These events aren’t just for the young, but the young at heart and for the disabled and their counterparts, the non-disabled. It’s the perfect time to make new friends and rekindle old ones.
Rest is vital to recovery, even daily. Be deliberate. Take time to rest and rejuvenate without guilt or shame. You deserve it!
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Summer Wind Down
Here we are, nearly in mid-September and still trying to hold on to summer. Our days spent lounging on the sofa, or the big swing on the porch with a book is all too quickly coming to an end. Most of us hate to see it go, even though in many places across the States, it’s been a year of unusual weather! From drenching rains —and hurricanes, to dry and hot, it seems most of us have had something we’ve ‘murmured’ about!
How does a person wind down the summer? Most of our kids are back in school, in whatever shape that takes. It might be public school, or a virtual one or even homeschooling. In any event, changes are taking place as everyone acclimates to the alarm early (or at least earlier) than we’ve climbed out of bed during the summer break.
Still this time of year is when we begin to forge pathways our brains sometimes fight against, while others soak it up like a sponge! As children learn in the classroom, we adults try to be more productive in the workplace or on the homestead or in ‘work places’ that are in our home! This comes in many forms and sometimes in the form of a homemaker, and that’s a job in itself! Whatever we choose ‘to be or do’ the goal is to be the best we can be!
Unwind And Enjoy What’s Around You
As we move forward toward the next phase of our lives, looking for positives in every single day is helpful. It can be as simple as taking a walk in the park, listening to ocean waves, or hiking a mountain. These positives have the ability to tap into all five senses and make us aware of the moment!
Perhaps create a ‘memory wall’ of the summer adventures. Display photos taken of family, friends, trips and adventures in an area where each event can be recreated and cherished. Maybe even let the kids help with the selection of pictures to be posted and even add keepsakes garnered over the summer during adventures. It could be a book discovered, a rock that has special meaning, a recipe for a special treat or meal or other item that brought special memories from the summer.
Reducing distractions is another way to create a positive, in our day to day lives. Most of us gravitate to our social media accounts in the early morning. What could your day be like if you chose to ignore all the technological devices and allures and just spend the early morning working on your ‘faith’ and making memories with your family?
Our children spend so much time in the school room—-or at least in ‘schooling’ we are limited to one on one time. In those early morning hours while kids are getting ready for school, take a moment and be ‘present’ with them. Listen while they share anxieties, or excitement over the coming day. Remind them you are there for them.
Spouses are another place where being ‘present’ is challenging because of schedules. Take a moment (even if it means rising just five minutes earlier) to share a moment with them!
As parents of children with special needs, this is especially important. Changes can come hard and as the weather turns cooler, days are shorter, and schedules are more complicated. Wrap your arms around them and encourage them to welcome the new, while allowing them to transition gradually to all the changes.
Summer is a wonderful time of year. But each season is a time of change which can be good, when we look for the positive, ‘be present’ and savor the moments spent with the loved ones in our lives.
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Every Child Can Learn
Labor Day is behind us and if school hasn’t already begun in your area, classes now will start in earnest across the nation! We send our children to school, have virtual school or homeschool, to get the education they need to live a successful and full life. They will gain the knowledge which will enable them to make decisions that affect their lives, and as they grow into adults, even for the families of their own.
Learning To Read And Write
September 8, 2023 is International Literacy Day. What Is Literacy? According the ‘Wickipedia” “Literacy in its broadest sense describes "particular ways of thinking about and doing reading and writing" with the purpose of understanding or expressing thoughts or ideas in written form in some specific context of use.” Wikipedia
There was a time when many people didn’t know how to read and write. Contracts were signed where families were cheated because they had to rely on—and trust— someone else to tell them what the document said. Signatures were simply ‘your mark’ because the gift of being able to write had not been learned.
As parents we never want to see our children being cheated or humiliated because of their inability to write, spell, read, or do math problems. When they struggle to ‘get’ it, we work with them or hire someone else to help them, until they finally connect with the processes.
Different teachers have different methods of teaching these basic skills including allowing to let children learn to ‘read’ on their own. It’s true, children learn at different rates, and learn information according to their interest more easily. In a classroom there is, however, a specific guideline for teachers, which are mandated by the county or school district. Whatever the plan, the goal is the same: each child will to learn to read and write.
We All Learn Differently
What happens when a child has a learning disability which hampers their ability to learn? It may be because of a brain injury, dyslexia, or other problem which keeps them from grasping the needed information that will allow them to read, write, listen attentively and master speaking and reasoning tasks.
It’s in these instances when teachers and parents must be dedicated to teaching children to function to the best of their ability, regardless of any pre-conceived in-abilities! This means assessing each child’s learning skills and work on getting the most out of what they can do, and then build upon that.
Every child can learn. It may be visual, or through touching, feeling and movement; through social interaction; perhaps better alone; verbally and through listening; logical thinking; or even through a process of hearing directions and replying audibly with the answer, known as the ‘aural’ learning style. It may be a combination of several or a little of all of them, depending on the subject and interest! Every child deserves the opportunity to learn at his pace, while using his style or styles, and not necessarily compared to his peers, or boxes, designed by others.
As we recognize Literacy Day this week, let’s remember that our children are not numbers nor statistics, but humans who were designed to make a difference in theirs and other’s lives. We can make a difference in theirs, when we allow them and encourage them to learn and grasp the ‘literacy challenges’ in ways that best suit them.
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Legacy of Entrepreneurship
Monday, September 4 we will celebrate Labor Day; a day to celebrate workers. It’s a great weekend where people often take mini-vacations as a last effort to get in some holiday time before school officially begins again in many areas. The long weekend takes people to the ocean waves, or fresh mountain air to enjoy time spent in family gatherings for picnics and merry making!
Interestingly, this is not why Labor Day was designed—although it was a ‘holiday’ of sorts! It evolved during a dark time in our American labor history. In the late 1800’s when the Industrial Revolution was a booming success, the average laborer was working a 12 hour day, seven days a week, just to make a very sparse living.
There were restrictions in some states, but children as young as five, worked in factories and in other areas earning only a fraction of the wages adults earned, for all their effort. Additionally laborers dealt daily with unsafe working conditions, a lack of fresh air, unclean workspaces and very few breaks. Violence became commonplace as workers rebelled against these low working standards.
Labor Day was first dubbed ‘a workingman’s holiday’ in 1882 during this violent time, as workers took unpaid leave from work to march into New York City. It wasn’t until 12 years after this first ‘holiday’, on June 28, 1894 that President Grover Cleveland finally made Labor Day a federal holiday.
ACHIEVING DREAMS ON MY OWN
Rather than working for someone else, entrepreneurship has become an American staple. People have long believed the way to achieve their dreams is to create their own businesses. It is here they are their own boss, are able to set their own work hours, and create a legacy for their loved ones.
Examples might be an artist, small maintenance or vendor business, a one location restaurant, a small boutique, a cleaning or a technical service; pet sitter or mechanic. The list could go for pages, totally contingent on a person’s creativity, ability, personality and even ambition.
Entrepreneurship has been lauded and embraced across the nation by most folks, for anyone who is willing to put forth the effort— except for someone in the disability population. Those who have a disability are often viewed as someone who has ‘no’ ability. Quite the contrary, however! Statistics are rising that indicate the disability community is paving their own path in entrepreneurship in careers and professions in which they are talented and excel!
A DISABILITY WON’T STOP DREAMS
Self-employment in the disability arena has risen nearly twice as much as their non-disabled counterparts, according to statistics over the last years. This is significant considering the stigma associated with having a disability. This people group is proving that they want to join the labor force and are empowered with ‘ability’ rather than a lack of ability!
This fact is not only good for each of these courageous people, but also for the economy! Our country is a better place when those who want to earn their way through life can do it successfully and become independent! Their new ideas, talents and innovations brought to life from determination, grit, creativity, talent and abilities in which a person thrives, is the best antidote for the lack of drive we see rising in our culture! They not only deserve our encouragement; they deserve our gratitude!
To every worker, non-disabled, and disabled alike, who wants to make a difference in their life and the lives of others, you are to be celebrated on this Labor Day. For your efforts; thank you!
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