The article, however, had forty ideas on lessons that can be learned, through someone else’s experiences, without all the trials and hurt that can occur, otherwise. I chose to write about just a few.
One way the author mentions is “people matter most.” I agree completely! It’s ironic, how hard we work to get where we believe we need to be. We focus on our education, followed by our career, giving it everything we’ve got to be successful. When we finally reach our “destination,” we find ourselves void of close friends and meaningful relationships. Oh sure, we have co-workers, who are traveling on the same journey. They have been an important part of our lives, but not necessarily the ones we choose to have a deep, close relationship. It’s vital for our emotional health to remember, ultimately, our success is not about how much money or material things we can acquire, but about the relationships that make us whole, including family and friends.
Following this train of thought, the idea of creating goals, are ultimately the secret to success. And while I don’t believe our lives should revolve around money and being materialistic, it important to have goals. Without them, we flounder without direction and therefore, cannot really make any forward progress. It’s been suggested to make a list of goals worth accomplishing in the next year, then three and five years….and finally tens years. If you’re adventurous, even goals for 20 years out. It’s important to remember, however, goals change--- for a variety of reasons. Interests, circumstances, financial situations and a whole host of other things, alter plans. Don’t be afraid to adjust your goals. Just be sure to have something in front of you to work toward.
Even as you plan for tomorrow with goals and ideas, don’t forget to live for today. We get so caught up in our work plans, we forget that today is all we can claim. We are not promised another moment, besides our last breath. So while we plan and set our goals in motion, it’s important to live today like it could be the last. This idea includes letting those you care about, know how you feel. Sometimes, life ends tragically or abruptly and we lose those precious moments forever. Don’t forget to let your children, spouse, parents or friends know they are an important part of your life. Once they (or you) are gone, that time can’t be reclaimed.
Lastly, don’t waste time. We are each given a 24 hour day. It’s important to take time for ourselves to be renewed or rest. But, when we spend hours and hours doing “absolutely nothing,” (like watching hours and hours of TV --- and yes, that is ONLY MY opinion) we’ve lost moments that could be spent doing something productive and positive for ourselves, our neighbors, family or even our world. It gives meaning to our lives.
I’m curious. If you could add something to these items of lessons learned, what would you add?