Situations like this creates the necessity of learning lessons, often the hard way! Sometimes it seems life would be so much easier if we could learn some of these lessons and gain wisdom, without having to endure them ourselves!
Often, however, even when we have the opportunity to observe lessons experienced through others, we still find ourselves slaves to the master of “learning lessons the hard way!” So why can’t we realize that our choices made today, will have a direct affect on all of our tomorrows? It comes down to making right decisions, at the right time, with the right attitude.
That said, there are some things we can do that will help along the way. Studies show smiling has a way of easing most tensions, even in bad situations, when we allow it. It’s also helpful to remember, if the person you are having coffee with is sharing details about someone else’s life (especially in a negative fashion), it’s likely they will be sharing your details with whomever they have coffee with next! And happiness is only attained when we give of ourselves, while thinking of others.
Failing happens only when we quit, so don’t quit! The truth is, life is going to hand us all kinds of situations we have to handle. It’s how we handle these situations that molds us into the person we are to become. Truth has a way of exposing who we are and that truth will reveal our character to every one around us.
The girl who had such a dysfunctional life isn’t so different than most of us. I don’t know if she ever chose to “escape” through alcohol or other substance as a teenager. She finally did, however, choose to face her reality head on as a young adult. When she could identify the source of her “loneliness” and find a healthy way to grow into a productive adult, healing could take place.
I challenge you to reflect on your childhood and life as a young adult---or even older adult. Do you identify with the young woman, at least on some level? I know I did. My childhood wouldn’t be described quite like hers, but it wasn’t “warm and fuzzy” either. Was it necessary for you to learn wisdom, “the hard way,” or were you able to focus your energies positively, without some really “hard knocks” that could have left you permanently damaged? Share with us your source or method used to put you on the right path.