When my children were young, their dad was a great one for telling tall tales or teasing them with some elaborate story so strange they didn’t believe it, or just off enough to leave them wondering if he was teasing or being truthful. When they weren’t sure, they’d invariably say, “Mom!?” They knew, even if I never said a word, whether honesty was being displayed by their dad, or not. If it was a ruse, I could not contain a straight face. My mouth would curve into an unmistakable smile, despite how how I tried.
On the other hand, if he was telling the truth, the children could again ascertain an answer to their question just by looking at me! What’s comical is even today, that “rule” holds true in our home. I simply am no actress!
Once, as a young teenager, I went to stay and babysit a three-year-old for a distant cousin I knew, but not well, for a week since their regular sitter was going to be away. What’s worse, I knew her husband even less. She left for work and her husband was to leave an hour or so later. He was waiting for his ride at the door and asked me to come over to him. I did, but what happened next, scared me to death. He said, “When Ron gets here I’m going to open the door and I’m going to kiss you so he thinks I’ve got some young thing in here while Ellen is gone.”
I recoiled and said, “No!” He tried everything to get me to agree, saying it was just for fun and just to get a “rise” from his co-worker, etc. I separated myself from him and refused to cooperate. He was not pleased, but his ride came and I refused to go to the door. Needless to say, that shortened that week! I wanted nothing more than to get out of there! It didn’t matter to me his “desire” was to “act” and supposedly all in fun. I was terrified!
Nothing has changed. I have a real problem being anything other than who I am. To do anything different is less than honest! Now, understand, I think it’s marvelous people are able to be actors and actresses for entertainment purposes. But in real life when we are portraying anything other than who we are, aren’t we being deceitful?
There are those who, because they wish to be wealthy, will spend well beyond their means or if they are wealthy will “act” like they are better than those lower on the social ladder. We’re all people with given characteristics and what we do with those qualities is what defines us.
What about you? Do people see the real you, someone you would like to be, or someone who deliberately hides your real personality from others?