Change, however, can be stressful. We can become so “comfortable” where we are, we are frightened by anything that is different from what we know. But many times, change is necessary, whether by normal or natural circumstances, or from a situation that is uncomfortable or downright awful!
Some years ago a friend was working as a teacher’s assistant. The job started nicely enough; the children were great and the teacher was pleasant. It wasn’t long, however, before the children became unruly and rude. The teacher had absolutely no control. The assistant did her best to handle the situation, but it seemed to go from bad to worse as the year moved on. The problem was compounded by the news from the Principal, himself, that she was hired to bring discipline to the classroom. That, however, was not in her job description. It was not her classroom! The assistant was so stressed, she could hardly wait until June arrived. It was actually another teacher who said to her, “Hang in there. Imagine where you will be one year from now. It won’t always be like this.”
My friend’s situation is not unique. There are plenty of other circumstances just as taxing and traumatic! There is the situation with the individual with PTSD who refuses counseling, a church congregation that is falling apart because of leadership issues, an unwanted career change because current employment status is ending, or a life threatening disease. Other changes, from a more positive perspective, but none-the-less challenging, complex and demanding, are having a new baby, attempting that book that longs to be written, attending the class you’ve always wanted to take or a move across the country---or across the world!
The point to all this “change perspective” is about how you handle it. My friend in the school system felt trapped and unable to do anything about it until the year ended. Sometimes waiting is the only option, but not always. If our “mental state” is threatened, then we need to take our struggles and frustration in another direction as quickly as possible; because, usually our situation isn’t going to change unless we do something about it!
Faith in yourself and your abilities is far better than relying on a magical solution to appear, because it likely won’t! We have to be our “best friend” and believe that we have the right to create our own paths. Someone said once, “Always remember that your present situation is not your final destination. The Best is yet to come.” -Unknown
If you are looking for or in need of a change, try to picture where you will be a year from now. Adequately prepare for the direction you’d like to take, then go for it! Your happiness may depend on it!