I saw a post a while ago where a family many years ago, took a photograph of the siblings. The next year the process was done again, and again the following year. The process grew into nearly forty years, where over the holidays the siblings struck the same pose and another photo was taken. This is phenomenal, considering how difficult it often is to get all the siblings together in one place at one time…..especially for a photo op (unless all the siblings stay local after they've grown)! This hasn't happened in my family in about eight or nine years.
Many families will have a height board somewhere in their home to commemorate the passing of years by placing marks of the changing growth of all the children. For those who never plan to move, a door frame may be used, while others may have a board created which can be moved if a transition to another location is necessary. Either way it is a marker of “time.”
As time passes and children grow into adults, depending on careers or even relationships, a family is separated in miles if not in spirit! Some of my children and their families live about 2000 miles away. Because of their work situations, and just the difficulty of traveling long distances with children, funds, and wanting to be in their own “space” at Christmas, traditional gatherings at this time of year can be difficult.
I’m fortunate, however. There are families who miss this time together because of broken relationships, or military obligations where the family doesn’t even know where their loved one is, yet their service is needed and appreciated. If a visit is made via face time, perhaps a screen shot can be taken to preserve these precious moments.
If your children are still young, have them strike a pose to capture the memory. Do it every year until that time when it’s impossible. I also encourage the parents to do the same for the children. There will come a time when, we as adults, will not be here for our children, grandchildren or great grandchildren. What a legacy to leave.
Perhaps during the Christmas season, years later, when being “together” is impossible, having these photos will cause a warming of the heart of times gone by that cannot be recaptured. Imagine the stories that can be shared to those remaining family members of those they’ve never had the chance to meet. This too, can be precious memories, preserving the joys of Christmas past, and making memories for Christmas present, and preparing for Christmas future. Christmas is the perfect time “to be together” in whatever form it comes.
Merry Christmas, Everyone!