Don’t we all have those kinds of days? It seems everything that can go wrong, does! Some people loathe when the 13th of any month lands on a Friday. It’s become a worldwide superstition that sets the stage for all kinds of horror movies! Yet, often, much about a “bad day” has to do with our own mood and perceptions!
It’s true, on those “bad days,” at the time, we can not see how our own attitude can color our world! A young woman came home from work in a horrible mood. She vented to her husband about all the “ills” of the day and how everyone she worked with that day had been stupid, hadn’t pulled their weight, did everything they weren’t supposed to, and annoyed her to no end! It didn’t occur to her until her husband said, “I’m sorry you weren’t weren't in a good mood today! Were you feeling bad?” Her perception of what had happened was directly related to how she had perceived others and actually how she felt!
It’s hard to stay positive when it seems like everyone in your path is projecting negativity. Even when someone on the highway who cuts you off on days like this, it seems like they did it deliberately. I’ve heard people even say, “They did that on purpose! Just to aggravate me!” Truth be told, they were indeed likely behaving badly, made a bad judgement call on how quick to pull back in front of you after passing, perhaps even running a stop sign or other foolish behavior. But even more likely is the fact they weren’t thinking about you at all. They were in their own little world, upset about whatever is going on in their mind, so focused on their own problems, and never even saw you.
Life is full of little “tragedies” and “upsetting moments.” We all have them. It’s how we respond to them that matters. When we allow people to turn our frustrations into rage, we’ve allowed them to “push our buttons” and we lose control. They now control us! We have to make a decision to not allow life’s calamities or catastrophes, rude behavior and words spoken out of turn, to make us behave badly!
I challenge you to consider your own “feelings,” mood, health issues, or even personality the next time you are having “a bad day.” Reflect before you accuse others of causing it. Could it be you just aren’t feeling like yourself and everyone else’s “bad” behavior is just a slight reflection of how you really feel?