I admit I completely appreciate seeing an older couple enjoying each other’s company. In our world of individuality, we often see couples grow further and further apart even as years pass and they live in the same house. There is something reassuring about seeing a look of “love” in the eyes of a woman “in love” with her husband for forty or fifty years. It seems this is a reality less and less likely to happen given our “give up and divorce” world.
It’s inevitable, however, that our world is filled with widows and widowers. This is a fact of life. People are born, grow, age and die. But it’s encouraging to hear an “older” person, with a twinkle in their eye say, “I’m old enough that I can say anything I want to! Who is going to tell me I can’t?”
There are several ladies in our church I absolutely adore. I’ve often said, “When I grow up, I want to be like Ms. Alvena and Ms. Mary.” Both are over 80, and are genuine. I use the words “Ms. Alvena and Ms. Mary,” because the two combined are a remarkable combination! Ms. Alvena, with love in her heart and a sparkle in her eye will tell you just what she thinks on any subject, honestly, but without any malice, even if she disagrees with how things are. Ms. Mary’s eyes overflow with love, as her arms wrap around you in understanding and wisdom, embracing the person you are.
Each of these ladies, with their separate strengths, look at life as an adventure and are willing to share their experiences with those who are interested, yet are open to trying (as long as it’s something they are physically able to do) something new!
While these ideas and attributes are probably the more “positive” side of aging, there are some draw backs! Getting older is knowing memory is likely going to be a problem. Another older friend once said, “It doesn’t matter that I forget things. I can revisit some place I’ve already been and it’ll be a brand new adventure!” Can you imagine having that perspective?
As young people, we often stress over everything! We are so busy raising children, working to keep the wolf away from the door, and trying to figure out who we are, where we belong in the world, and what is really important, we often forget to just live!
Life is an adventure, or at least should be. If we could look at the world as through the eyes of a child, where everything is wonderful, good and exciting, then we would more likely be happier people.
Even as we age, if we can remember (or forget—and remember a new!) life is not about what we accumulate in material goods. But rather, what we leave behind as we walk this road, called life. It’s about the joy we can share with others, kindness we can offer, honesty, understanding and love, along with seeing each new day as an opportunity to “revisit an adventure!”