I’m not a calm person! In fact, when I am excited, people can really tell I’m excited because I nearly bounce off the walls and talk faster than normal! Some people just aren't sure how to respond when I'm like that!
I wear my emotions on my sleeve! There’s no mistaking when I am upset. I will cry in a heartbeat and that can be a problem! I could never be a poker player because my face shows every emotion possible! I don’t know that this is necessarily a bad thing, but hiding negative feelings can be difficult!
Saying “no” might be another thing I don’t like much about me….. but because I have a hard time saying it! I hate the thought of hurting someone’s feelings! I’ve been told that we should say “no” with confidence, but I’ve always had a problem with that. Even when I do say it, I usually feel bad for a week afterwards! So often, instead of saying firmly, I can’t “do” something, I make every effort possible to accommodate when I can! Like most people, this can lead to being overwhelmed and that is an awful feeling, as well.
Years ago when I was head of a committee, the “job description” kept changing, adding more responsibilities. Finally, a friend told me straight out, “You are going to burn out! Say NO!” It took me a while, but I did finally pull in the reins to a manageable amount of activities, so I could still feel productive without feeling “abused!”
Another flaw in character is how trusting I am! It leaves me so vulnerable! This is a trait I have tried to alter, and for the life of me, I have a terrible time, even knowing how important it is for me be a little more cautious. Honestly, for me, unless I know I have reason to not trust you, I will. This can have it’s share of problems. My husband has always had “my back” on this one! He has told me time and again that I’m too trusting, and will point blank tell me I’m on the wrong track! That doesn’t mean we always agree, but it does cause me to be a little more careful.
Even listing some of the problems I see in myself, and knowing it would probably be a good thing, in some instances to change behaviors, I see these characteristics as part of who I am. What good would we be to anyone if we all were “perfect” or believed every flaw we have should be changed? A flaw to one person can be a benefit to another.
We are all different, with diverse characteristics, personalities and abilities. The weakness of one is bolstered by the strength of someone else. It is often what creates the bond and relationships between people. Perhaps being excitable, trusting, enthusiastic and willing, aren’t such bad qualities.
So I challenge you to look at who you are. Are there things you dislike? Should you change them or be aware of them? Why or why not?