What makes this situation worse, it seems like when I “lose” something, it’s because I deliberately moved it from it’s previous spot so that when I wanted it, I could lay my hands on it in an instant. When the instant comes, I’m at a total loss!
Recently I discovered I’m not the only one who does this. A friend of mine looked like she was searching for something, even as we visited. I finally asked her if she lost something. She said “Yes! The title to the trailer we just sold. Just tonight I told Elliot I knew right where it was, and now I have no clue what I’ve done with it!”
Like me, because she needed it immediately, her nerves made her mind tangle in tiny knots making it impossible for her to think clearly, yet like the water in the photo, her mind was going in every direction! Finally, as she calmed down, she had that “ah ha!” moment and remembered where she put it!
I remember as a student facing a big exam and being horribly concerned about the outcome. It didn’t seem to matter how well I studied, looking at the test caused my brain to freeze. This wasn’t just in elementary, middle or high school! When I went to college as a “non-traditional” student, math class set me in a fit! I studied, did numerous problems over and over again and still when faced with working out the problem without notes, my brain became a tangled, forgetful mess!
There is some consolation in knowing that anxiety does actually cause you to forget things. I say consolation, because apparently it’s a scientific phenomenon. I didn’t realize that memory is connected to nutrition and sleep or that memories, according to some, are created while we sleep! That sounds like an oxymoron to me and I haven’t the faintest idea how that’s possible. But then, I don't have a scientific mind!
Other factors related to forgetfulness include the hormone, cortisol which is related to long term stress; distractions from anxiety which overwhelms the mental processes; focus in day to day living when our brain is running a hundred miles an hour anyway, and sometimes, we even forget for no reason at all!
My point is this. Forgetting something is not (usually) going to cause a cataclysmic problem, although when it happens it feels like it. When we recognize it for what it is, the best thing to do is “breathe!” We need to calm down, allow our minds to slow to a better handled pace and then resume with trying to recall the information we need.
Granted, that isn’t going to help much on a test we are taking, but knowing anxiety is going to rear its ugly head when we are faced with those kinds of challenges, can at least be factored in when preparing. It might remind us to begin preparing sooner or to try another method of recollection and being willing to try new strategies that “trick” our brain into recalling the necessary data required.
So I encourage you to remember, forgetting something, is going to happen! The challenge is how we’re going to deal with it!http://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/symptoms/forgetfulness