As I read the list I was actually mortified someone would actually compare them self to me. After all, who am I? I am just another woman who happens to share many of the same friends and in most ways, very like minded, as my friend. What difference does it make that I choose to dress nice, even if I rarely go outside my home other than grocery shopping once a week and to church services on Sunday? Does it really matter?
I remember many years ago reading a self help-marriage kind of book, which I can’t even remember the title of, that made a lasting impression. It might be the only thing I really recall from the entire book! The author was discussing how wives get up (or don’t) in the morning to see their husbands off to work. At the time my husband was not yet retired and we had several little ones at home. So mornings were somewhat challenging. But the author said, “How you present yourself to your husband first thing in the morning is the last thing he sees before going to work.” That hit home.
I made the decision to rise early enough to be completely “done” before my husband got out of bed. I wanted his impression of me during his work day to be one that would make him smile, rather than needing to search his memory files to recall what I looked like without makeup, hair all askew and a bathrobe! Did it make a difference? I don’t know. I’d like to think so. I know when I look at me in the mirror, before I am “done,” makes me cringe. Certainly he must have too!
All that said, if how I look to my husband first thing in the morning is important, how much more important is how I look when I arrive at work? People from all walks of life, will have the opportunity to make a judgment call on the way I look, just like my husband. Does that matter? I think it does.
According to Forbes magazine, in an article published in March 2013, how you dress and look matters a lot! The article stresses that not only employees and colleagues judge us by our appearance, but also customers. We are assessed on our attire, table manners, grooming and even the way carry out our duties.
Like my friend who noted our differences, and my husband who left each morning with a more pleasant visual of his wife than not, our appearance does matter. It matters in the workplace, in our social events and even in our home.