Some months ago I followed the lead of one person to another and still another via face book, and found a friend I haven’t seen in more than ten years. Musically, this young man was an incredible inspiration to me and I was delighted when I clicked on the “friend” button, he responded within just moments.
When shopping, my husband and I ran into another young man we hadn’t seen again, in about ten years, yet this “chance meeting” felt like it had been merely ten days since our last visit! It’s amazing when you have friendships that time doesn’t mar or diminish!
There was a speaker recently who asked, how many friends we really felt we have. Most, he pointed out, were nothing more than “acquaintances.” Our true friends can often be counted on one hand. They are the friends that stick with you when times are tough; when times are hard and challenging.
Have you ever wished you could win the lottery? Chances are we’ve all thought that, at least fleetingly, if we’re honest! Those who do win such wealth, often find who their true friends really are. Our world is filled with “friends” who want nothing more in a friendship than to see “what they can gain from it!” The lottery winner suddenly has a “wealth” of friends who are hopeful that the winner will share their new found wealth!
These are not true friends, but users. These are the kinds of “friends” who will bail on you and stay hidden if there is any turbulence on the way. They choose to not hold up their “friend” when they are being battered by another, going through tough financial difficulties, or personal trials.
So what makes a good friend? A good friend is someone who accepts you just as you are. It doesn’t matter how different you are, it’s okay! This kind of friendship creates a bond of trust, respect and kindness, despite any disagreement. A good friend will not judge you, put you down or deliberately be unkind. They will share your triumphs, be honest even if it hurts, inspire you to go after your dreams and goals, make you happy just because you are sharing time together, be willing to listen when you need to share, and cry with you when you are in pain.
These qualities go both ways. To have a friend like the one described requires being that kind of friend, as well. When you have a friend like this, it won’t matter if circumstances arise causing a move across the county or across the world! This kind of friend is a “forever friend.” This is the kind of friend many people desire, but very few have.
I challenge you to look closely at your list of friends. Who of these on your list is a “forever friend?” If you didn't see them for ten years, would you be able to "pick up right where you left off, from the last time you saw them?"