Taken aback by her bluntness, I was at first uncertain how to respond. Catching my breath, I slowly said, “You can’t just pick and choose who your best friend is going to be. You’ll always be my friend. We grew up together; same town, school and friends. But it doesn’t work that way. Friendship and relationships are developed. While we are friends, we don’t share the same views on many subjects. Often, being different isn’t okay with you. I’m just wrong. So, the chances of us being “best friends” isn’t going to happen. But that said, I’ll always be your friend, and I hope a forever friend.” She was crushed and I felt awful.
Our lives are what we make them. Venting, complaining and generally being negative about life does nothing for relationships! My friend, mentioned above, is one of those people who I prefer in small doses, because she is consistently negative. The occasional rant is not a horrible thing. We all need that from time to time. But life is about take the “lemons and making lemonade!” It’s about looking at life from a positive perspective regardless of how bad things seem to be. Like it or not, there is someone who has a life worse than we do!
The best way to change what you don’t like about something, is doing something productive about it! Everyone has problems. Getting sympathy by wallowing in our own self pity is fruitless! We need to find solutions! We can probably all claim to be a victim from time to time. That’s life. But we must break the cycle of negativity that drags not only us down, but those we have in our lives.
To make productivity happen when things look horribly glum, can be a challenge. But the first thing we must do is decide to change! And then we must surround ourselves with people who have a happy and positive outlook. That doesn’t mean begin to grumble, murmur and vent to our more positive friends. That will only drive them away! But observe how they live their lives. Take lessons from their perspective. It does not mean they will always be right! Their ways of handling things may not be the right way for what you are going through. But still their perspective on life in general may help you get a handle on things.
Life is a journey. It isn’t accomplished in a day, although each day should be viewed as an opportunity to begin positively. When you wake in the morning, rather than saying "ugh, same ole’ same ole’” ….. choose to say, “Today is going to be a great day! I will be my best no matter what happens!” Certainly, it’s likely you are going to encounter people or situations that will not be “happy.” But if your mindset is in this framework, you have a better ability to handle it from a positive perspective.
So I challenge you to think about how you view life. Is it in constant chaos and turmoil, filled with anxiety and frustration and ultimately “gloom and doom?” Choose to be happy, looking at life as something wondrous and exciting! That said, I also challenge you to slow down and with a grateful heart see the blessings around you. It’s not likely going to be perfect. But that’s life. No one has the perfect life. But we do have a choice in how we view it and ultimately handle it!