He’d dreamed of moving there for four or five years. Still the idea of him leaving, left me distraught for some time. I couldn’t even discuss it for three entire days. I’d just break down and cry. He was patient and allowed me to cry until the storm passed, without rebuke or humiliation. He’d give me a hug and tell me it’d be okay. He was right. It took some time, but I did get over the distress….. until we moved him into the dorm at the college. My emotions went into spillover form again.
While this may seem a bit dramatic, and perhaps it was, there is just something about letting go of your children. Each of my five children were (and still are) unique. They have special qualities that makes each of them “the favorite.” But there is something about the youngest.
We are promised a wonderful snowstorm over this next weekend. Children have the possibility of having a snow day or two out of it and parents are going to be inconvenienced and have to adjust for childcare. I used to be just as excited as my young ones when we had a snow day or two when they were still in school.
I remember even when they were elementary age, I hated when summer was over and school started again. Not all parents feel this way. Many count the days until school starts again in the Fall. They don’t seem to know what to do with their children when they are home. Often these young ones are in every Vacation Bible School scheduled around town or in activities that will keep them away from the house during the summer months.
While there are those who want to “separate” themselves from their young children, there are other parents who lose their children not to moving away like my youngest son, but through an accident, suicide, or perhaps not through a literal death but through substance abuse or other form of rebellion. Sometimes it’s a loss through incarceration or missing in action in the military.
As parents, we dream, hope and do our best to make our children’s lives everything we want them to be. Life has a way of changing plans we’ve made for them and sometimes even the plans they have made. We can’t always fix the problems our children encounter and we certainly don’t want to see them hurting, confused or lonely. But as parents we need to remember despite what is happening in their lives or ours, we need to love them. We need to embrace them in our hearts and in our arms.
Children have a “sneaky” way of growing up …. and away…. And it’s heartbreaking when a relationship isn't formed before they leave home. Once they leave the “nest,” forming a relationship is even more difficult, often because of geographical distance, disappointments, pain, and sometimes anger.
Your children are your greatest achievement, accomplishment, and contribution to this life! Don’t take them for granted. Hold them close. Let them know you hold them dear. You never know ....today could be your last chance.