“What?” I asked, clearly confused.
“Well, I remember when I was in high school I had big dreams. I was cheerleader, part of student government and seemed to have everything going for me. Then I graduated, married, had kids and my life is anything but what I dreamed it could be. I feel like I have shrunk and shriveled from the person I once was, to become dry and wrinkled, rejected and worthless.”
“That’s horrible!” I replied.
“It is what it is,” she said dejectedly.
“I have allowed life to control me, rather than me controlling my life. I’ve let life events shape the person I have become.”
“But that’s true of everyone to some degree,” I countered. “It’s how you respond to events that determines the person you will become.”
“That’s just it,” she said. “I didn’t respond positively or aggressively enough when things were going sour, and I ended up being the “curdled milk!”
As I thought about the conversation later, although amused at her analogy, I had to admit we probably all make choices and respond in ways we wish we hadn’t, to life circumstances. And it seems once we begin that kind of cycle it’s very difficult to get out of it.
As we ready ourselves for the Christmas celebration, I suggest it’s a great time to give ourselves the gift of taking control of our lives and making a difference! It may not be remotely easy, but good gifts don’t always come easy.
Sometimes we get so focused on ourselves, we end up being blinding to ways to make life brighter for someone else. When we think of others, it draws us out of the “it’s about me,” mentality. Face it; we probably all want more of what life has to offer. We want more money, freedom, time, love, happiness, wisdom and a whole long list of other “wants” if we’re honest!
Instead of asking “Why me?” try asking “What can I do to make my life better? How can I lose my extra weight? How can I reduce spending so I can get out of debt? How can I increase my income?”
What I’m suggesting is turn your thought process around so instead of being the grape turning into the raisin, you are the raisin finding ways to fill the skin full of the juices to round out your life! While this may sound like another absurd analogy, isn’t this what we really want to see in our individual lives? We want good things to happen to us. It's unlikely to happen if our minds are not open to receiving it.
Christmas is the time of giving and receiving gifts. When we give our mind the gift of positive, directional thinking, we’ve given ourselves a gift of unbelievable possibilities! A health author I was reading recently says he asks himself questions about what he’s going to write about before he goes to sleep at night and allows his subconscious to mull it over while he sleeps!
So I challenge you to reflect on how you think. Are you living with a “defeatist” attitude and blocking yourself to good possibilities? Are you willing to turn your thoughts into ammunition to fight negativity and move forward to be where you want to be? 2016 is right around the corner. What a great time to make positive changes.