My friend isn’t the only one who feels this way. I admit to having the same issue. It doesn’t matter what I’m wearing, nothing seems to help the way I feel! Why? Does –or should --- hair really have that much of a psychological effect on a body?
It seems this same thing can happen when I don’t like my outfit—whether it’s the color, the way it hangs on me, or if I’m just not in the mood to wear it! Why again, can it have such an effect on my mood? I somehow doubt my friend and I are the only ones who feel this way!
There are those women who shop for clothes or shoes in an effort to feel better. I’m not a “shopper” by nature. But I will go through my closet looking for something else to wear! Sometimes it takes several outfits to get the “right” one! What amazes me even more is to see my little granddaughter at age two become very upset about what she is wearing---to the point of tears! Why? What does a little girl care about what she wears?
According to some research, women (and maybe little girls) attach emotions to what we wear! We then use those outfits that have good connotations as aids to improve our mood.1 I admit, there are times when I have put away an outfit I absolutely have had and liked for a long time, and chose another. I didn’t know why at the time, but according to this article if we’ve experienced a “bad event” while wearing a particular outfit, that may carry over to how we perceive the outfit the next time we have it on.
Other times we use clothes to hide how we really feel. We may be having a bad morning due to any variety of reasons, but will choose to wear something bright and cheerful in an effort to make us feel better first, but also to mask how we really feel to others.
Research has shown having a bad hair day is much the same psychologically as wearing the wrong outfit! How we perceive our hair to look can influence our mood to the point of negatively affecting performance at work! When we are certain “we look a mess” we more readily experience self-doubt and insecurity, as well as feel shame and humiliation! 2
When was the last time you had “a bad hair day?” Do you recall if it wreaked havoc on your entire day? What did you do about it? Can you sense when someone else is having a "bad hair day" even when their hair doesn't really look a mess? Is there some kindness you can show to encourage a person in this mind set?