I suspect we all go through periods in our lives where we feel we need a change. We often hear more about this during New Year’s as people make resolutions for the coming year. The first week is met with gusto as those who make their resolutions intend to follow through, but soon afterward, life “happens,” old habits rise and frustrations set in, causing us to put off for a day our new desire, then a second and third, until ultimately the idea of our resolutions are not even a remote memory!
Change can come really hard for some since many prefer to stay in their comfort zone. But sometimes change comes because circumstances require it. There may be health reasons that mandate a diet and exercise regime not considered before, or a race which demands certain training. Sometimes a job will require a change in habits or a move in location. But occasionally, a change happens just because we feel the need to do something different; to spread our wings and go in a different direction. This takes a great deal of courage.
I’ve been in the same court as my friend! I’ve been excited without clearly knowing why, certain some kind of change was getting ready to take place. And it does promote a fair amount of anxiety when it’s not certain where we’re headed. I know I’ve actually sat down with paper and pencil and tried to sort out my feelings and determine the direction I think I should go. But honestly, it comes down to focusing on what we’d like to accomplish and setting goals. With that said, it’s easy to create a list, it’s the follow through that creates a problem.
There are lots of experts on goal setting, with information to help us along. It’s choosing the right one that fits our particular personality and style. I'm not an expert, but certainly when we have an idea for something important to accomplish, we have a beginning; but it’s vital to be more specific! In fact, each goal needs to be as specific as possible and then it needs to be broken down in to manageable steps to get there! It’s helpful to actually write down the way you plan on achieving this goal; every single step. It’s like have a sub sandwich! You can only eat it a bite at a time!
To be successful also requires motivation! Everyone needs a support group, a cheering section, if you will, and someone to push you forward when you stall! Success also requires a deadline. If there is no reason to finish, you likely won’t. So with each step, set a time frame from which to work.
This kind of plan isn’t only important for a personal change, but also for work, or improvement in other areas. So I challenge you to look at each area of your life: personal interest, work, relationship, educational, family and any other area unique to you. Set some specific goals, create a plan broken down into manageable bites, have a cheering section, spread your wings and make your dreams a reality!