I remember when our children were young, this was especially important! Having five children, and making a schedule that worked was often challenging. But it was extremely important to both my husband and me, that our children have as much “family life” as possible. This meant sitting down to the dinner table as often as we could as a family unit. Of course, this didn’t always work, but we did our best!
Understand, we were and even now are as busy as any other family. But when the children were younger we had sports, ballet, piano lessons, the library, clubs in school, and doctor visits (this is the big one now as we get older!) Sigh! There were/are business meetings and the inescapable shopping trips and all those other “things” people do! It seems we function, even as we move, from appointment to appointment!
As ragged as our schedule can be, especially during this Christmas season, it is vital that we do our best to communicate with our spouses. There can be immense stress and strain on a marriage when busy-ness keeps you apart. There are so many obligations it seems that by the time you finish your day with work and responsibilities there is no energy left for “close time” with the person most important in your life.
It’s times like these married couples need and must set aside a time for just the two of you. Pull out that already overfilled calendar, do some cutting or at least adjusting and take the time to set a special date where the two of you, as a couple, steal away for dinner, a movie, a ride down a country road, anything that can revitalize the romance in your lives. Make this appointment so important, nothing short of illness or emergency just short death can alter or eliminate it.
Now it’s true, this may seem a bit extreme, but it’s been proven time and again what is left and neglected will die. Even if it doesn’t “die” missing out on “together time” robs you of the intimacy needed to keep the flames of your relationship strong.
"Alone time" allows you opportunity to rediscover each other. There is data which suggests a “weekly” date can rejuvenate a marriage since it provides a time of nurturing, enjoying each other’s company, relaxing in the comfort of the one you’ve dedicated your life to, dreaming, and exploring each other’s ideas!
While “date night” isn’t the only alternative to rediscovery in a marriage, it is super important and I not only challenge you, but encourage you to set a date on the calendar this next week for time away with the love of your life. You might enjoy this so much, you get creative with other ways you can share time together. Share in the love that brought you together…. Take the time necessary for the two of you, as you rekindle your love, and make this Christmas even more special, perhaps even, the best one ever!